designer Mallorie Carrington | photo by Eric Walton | model Elena Siddal + Shalyni, Chrisandra, Alexa and Alexa, and Casey in the second photo.
This photo is for the lookbook of a new lifestyle clothing brand called Smart Glamour. They are devoted to creating affordable, ethically made fashion for all sizes.
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I want to take this moment to say something important on the subject of self love and being body positive:
It is my belief that both of those things begin with acceptance of yourself. Way easier said than done, right? We do not live in a world that wants us to like ourselves. But so many of us fill our brains with looping patterns of negative self talk when we need to be our own number one advocates.
I saw a brilliant quote recently that said 'Shame isn't a catalyst; it is a paralytic.' That resonated very deeply with me. Shame is what has always kept me inside. Shame is what causes me to tell myself ‘I will be lovable once I achieve ____’ and ‘I will be beautiful after I ____’ and most importantly ‘I will like myself and be happy once I _____’ (lose weight, have better skin, wear better clothes, am recognized for higher achievements, become more flexible, etc. etc. etc. The list goes on.) Shame is what has always told me that I am not enough.
But here’s the most important thing I’ve learned in the process of accepting myself:
If your love for yourself is conditional, it will never be complete.
If you keep telling yourself that you’ll accept yourself after you lose weight, become more talented, have a better job, have a great relationship or whatever, you are setting yourself up to fail. It’s okay to want to make change in your life, but oppressing yourself with hatred is the WORST WAY TO DO IT. If you keep putting arbitrary obstacles in the path of your journey to self acceptance, you’ll never feel like you’re good enough. Unconditional love means you need to be there for yourself even at your worst and most unhappy.
You are enough right now. You are enough as you are. You have a right to take up space, to voice your opinions, to take chances, to laugh loudly, to wear fantastic clothes, to talk to the ‘cool kids’. And no, this doesn’t mean you have to be perfectly, 100% happy with everything about yourself right now. You are still allowed to want to change - that’s how we grow and evolve. But even accepting that you aren’t where you want to be right at this moment is part of self love. You are worthwhile, and you deserve the time and the peace to figure things out. Not being exactly what you want to be RIGHT NOW does not diminish your worth or value in any way. You are inherently worthy.
Self acceptance doesn’t need to be the end goal - make it your first step. Every step after that will probably feel a little easier.